How Your Actions Mean More to Your Spouse Than What You Say Ever Will

Thomas Davis
2 min readDec 18, 2021
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You can say you’re sorry a thousand times but if your actions don’t change then I won’t believe you.

My wife says this to me all the time. When we started dating, I would do and say things that weren’t considered very smart. I got to admit I used to hate when she said that. But deep down I knew she was 100% right but I didn’t want to hear it and knew my actions had to change.

Learned to Shut My Big Trap

Some lessons in life are learned the hard way.

Changing my actions didn’t happen overnight. There were many arguments that could have simply been avoided if I had learned to stop saying sorry and start taking a different course of action. I can only imagine how my wife felt like this vicious pattern was never going to change.

I didn’t want to continue this destructive behavior and took steps to rectify the situation.

Here are 3 steps I took to fix the problem:

Step # 1: Acknowledge that I was the person at fault and needed to work on what I was doing that was causing us to not get along.

Step # 2: Relay the incident that I was saying sorry for. I tried to figure out where I went wrong or more importantly what I apologized for.

Step # 3: Come to the realization that I loved this person and that was the reason I needed to have my actions speak louder than my words.

This helped me become a better husband and partner to my wife. I have transformed into a healthier human being who can take what I learned and apply it to other areas of my life.



Thomas Davis

Writer, motivational blogger, self-development,deep thinker, storyteller