Why is Admitting You’re Wrong So Tough

Thomas Davis
5 min readOct 4, 2021

Getting past this hurdle is a huge part of personal growth.


Nobody likes to be wrong about anything. They don’t want to look like they haven’t got a clue as to what they are talking about.

Let’s tackle the elephant in the room. Most of the time e this is guy problem. Sorry boys but the truth is still the truth.

I don’t know if it’s stubbornness or just plain ego, but many people love to think they are right all the time. Maybe they’ve never been challenged or stood up to. Folks who display this characteristic see themselves in a light most others wouldn’t.

Ego likes to win and will do so at almost any cost.

They also hate and fear change because it means they will have to adapt. People who are stubborn are not very good at adapting. They would rather keep the illusion going for as long as they can to protect their fragile ego.

They fail to realize is that everything changes. Seasons change, caterpillars become butterflies, boys become men. It happens all the time whether you like it or not.

It is necessary for personal growth and development. People who stay the same are most likely left behind when change happens. Look at all the jobs that have been lost because industries change or if they don’t, they go the way of the dinosaur.

When I think of admitting fault the image that comes to my mind is Archie Bunker. He was a character on TV during the 70s who always thought he was right. When he knew he was wrong he never admitted he took to name calling and insults.

He was a jaded and cranky man who nobody wanted to be around except the folks who thought like him. After all these people had to keep feeding their own delusion too.

The longer this goes on the harder and harder it is to change. They have built up such an impenetrable wall the effort to break down this fortress of solitude would be a herculean task. Having to admit you were wrong leads to unconscious feelings of guilt and shame to which some people might never recover. They would rather keep up the façade then risk being ridiculed.

Psychologist and author Guy Winch believe this flaw is due to having incredibly fragile egos. They use what experts…



Thomas Davis

Writer, motivational blogger, self-development,deep thinker, storyteller